You expected pleasureâbut got numbness instead.
Why? When intimacy isnât rooted in genuine connection, it can feel hollow, even depleting. Your body may have engaged, but your spirit didnât feel safe.
2. Regret or Self-Doubt
Thoughts like âWas I used?â or âWhy did I let that happen?â loop in your mind.
Why? Regret often stems not from the act itself, but from a misalignment between your values and your choice. Thatâs your inner wisdom speakingânot shame.
3. Tangled Attachments
You canât stop thinking about themâeven though theyâve moved on.
Why? Oxytocin (the âbonding hormoneâ) releases during physical touch, creating emotional glueâeven when the other person feels nothing. This isnât weakness; itâs biology.
âď¸ When Mismatched Expectations Cause Real Harm
Casual doesnât mean consequence-freeâespecially when:
One person wants connection, and the other wants convenience
Boundaries werenât discussed beforehand
The encounter involved someone in a relationship (yours or theirs)
These situations can lead to:
Erosion of self-trust
